Esther Thanks so much for sharing. It sounds like you're dealing with a very difficult situation, Esther. It's understandable that you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. It's important to remember that caring for someone with dementia can be incredibly challenging, both physically and emotionally. One approach that comes to mind is seeing if it is possible to get additional support such as a PSW to come to your home and help you with transfers.
It's essential to prioritize your sister's hygiene and health. Even if she resists, try to gently encourage her to bathe and brush her teeth regularly. Emphasizing and educating her on the importance of personal hygiene might be beneficial.
Additionally, it's crucial to take care of yourself during this time. Caring for a loved one with dementia can be exhausting, so don't hesitate to reach out for support from friends, family, or support groups. Remember, you're doing the best you can in a challenging situation, and it's okay to ask for help.